quarta-feira, 28 de dezembro de 2011
terça-feira, 27 de dezembro de 2011
quinta-feira, 22 de dezembro de 2011
China Three Gorges é a escolhida para a EDP
Ler mais: http://aeiou.visao.pt/china-three-gorges-e-a-escolhida-para-a-edp=f640162#ixzz1hIYWOcsc
quarta-feira, 21 de dezembro de 2011
terça-feira, 20 de dezembro de 2011
sábado, 17 de dezembro de 2011
Ruas e casas da Mouraria escondem verdadeira Chinatown

Se quiser ir a um médico chinês ou comer comida realmente chinesa não precisa de ir à China, basta ir à Mouraria onde as ruas e casas tipicamente lisboetas escondem uma verdadeira "Chinatown".
Inicialmente "ocupada" por imigrantes oriundos do Bangladesh e da Índia, a Mouraria foi, há uns anos, o bairro escolhido por muitos chineses para morarem e trabalharem. Hoje, as várias etnias convivem pacificamente lado a lado com os portugueses.
Nas traseiras do Centro Comercial Mouraria, o edifício número 60 tem a porta quase sempre aberta. Lá dentro estão várias folhas escritas em mandarim e, numa delas, sobressaem apenas três números de telefone portugueses. O que está lá escrito? Que trabalha ali um médico de medicina tradicional chinesa e os serviços que presta.
Inicialmente, o médico abriu o consultório a pensar exclusivamente nos chineses que ali residem e trabalham, mas agora atende também portugueses.
"O único problema é a comunicação. Os portugueses têm de arranjar maneira de entender e de se fazerem entender", disse Nuno Franco, da associação "Renovar a Mouraria", que promove visitas guiadas pelo bairro.
Profundo conhecedor da comunidade chinesa, Nuno Franco explicou que os chineses "mantém cá os hábitos que tinham lá, incluindo o da medicina tradicional".
Numas portas mais à frente está a redacção de um dos dois jornais chineses que são publicados em Portugal.
Com uma tiragem de seis mil exemplares por semana, o "Sino" é escrito em Lisboa, impresso em Espanha e depois regressa à capital portuguesa para ser vendido.
"Muitas das notícias são de Portugal e até já trouxe notícias do bairro da Mouraria", contou o guia.
Muitos populares, devido à "vaidade" das mulheres chinesas, são os cabeleireiros: só à entrada do bairro, Nuno Franco contou dez e lá para dentro existem mais.
Na Mouraria existem também restaurantes chineses que começaram por servir única e exclusivamente a comunidade, mas que hoje já começaram a abrir portas ao público em geral.
É o caso do "Chinês Clandestino", que foi "descoberto por jovens universitários e hoje está quase sempre esgotado" pela população universitária.
"Come-se muito bem. É uma comida completamente diferente da dos restaurantes chineses da cidade. É mesmo comida chinesa", frisou Nuno Franco.
As etnias que convivem no bairro dividem também as lojas do Centro Comercial Mouraria e muitos fazem dele uma segunda casa.
Nos corredores vêem-se caixotes, expositores de roupa, lojistas sentados em cadeiras a ver quem passa, deitados em espreguiçadeiras a dormir, outros a ouvir música nos telemóveis topo de gama ou a jogarem em i-pads.
Uma empresa de catering chinesa, também do bairro, fornece as refeições para muitos daqueles lojistas, que chegam a passar 12 horas por dia no trabalho.
Dentro do centro, a maioria das lojas é de roupa e acessórios, mas há também de especiarias, agências de viagens e até um escritório de contabilidade.
Do lado da comunidade, os mais novos, que já nasceram ou cresceram em Portugal, são mais abertos a relacionarem-se com portugueses e com o seu estilo de vida.
Mas, no geral, todos gostam de mostrar um certo "estilo de vida", que passa por terem um bom carro, um bom telefone e frequentar sítios que consideram "bons" como o Casino de Lisboa.
"É por isso que trabalham tantas horas por dia", disse Nuno Franco.
segunda-feira, 12 de dezembro de 2011
domingo, 11 de dezembro de 2011
sexta-feira, 9 de dezembro de 2011
segunda-feira, 5 de dezembro de 2011
sexta-feira, 2 de dezembro de 2011
"Weightless" Oiça aqui a música "mais relaxante de sempre"
Boys Don't Cry, they move on
Se esta musica tivesse sido feita agora, o seu nome seria, Crying is for bitches and suckers, thank you 70's for the nice songs, but boys don't cry, they move on, and listen to this.
quinta-feira, 1 de dezembro de 2011
terça-feira, 29 de novembro de 2011
sábado, 19 de novembro de 2011
sexta-feira, 18 de novembro de 2011
quinta-feira, 17 de novembro de 2011
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terça-feira, 1 de novembro de 2011
8 Things Everybody Ought to Know About Concentrating
“Music helps me concentrate,” Mike said to me glancing briefly over his shoulder.
Mike was in his room writing a paper for his U.S. History class. On his desk next to his computer sat crunched Red Bulls, empty Gatorade bottles, some extra pocket change and scattered pieces of paper. In the pocket of his sweat pants rested a blaring iPod with a chord that dangled near the floor, almost touching against his Adidas sandals. On his computer sat even more stray objects than his surrounding environment. There must have been twenty browser tabs open. The tabs included political blog news, random Wikipedia entries, Facebook profiles and a Myspace page blasting more music at him. Two notifications with sound popped-up simultaneously in the top-right corner of his screen. One was an email; the other was a tweet. Behind his dozens of browser windows sat a pending music download and a handful of blinking IM’s.
Mike made a shift about every thirty seconds between all of the above. He’d write a little bit for his history paper, check his pending download, reply to his IM’s, and then start all over.
Do you know a person like this? I do. Those were my concentration habits at one point in my life. Yet, I made a series of decisions that resulted in a 180 degree turn. This book is about how to make that 180 degree turn. And this chapter centers on understanding a core component for getting focused: short-term focus (or concentration). We’ll first outline what science teaches us about concentration, and then we’ll dive into how you can concentrate when you feel overwhelmed through 8 steps.
The Science Behind Concentration
In the above account, Mike’s obviously stuck in a routine that many of us may have found ourselves in, yet in the moment we feel it’s almost an impossible routine to get out of. Many fall into this pattern because constantly shifting attention and multitasking eases the pain of doing something you hate in the first place. We mitigate essays and projects with blasts of dopamine delivered through tweets, music and gossip.What science tells us, though, is that not only does multitasking make our work 50% less valuable; it takes 50% longer to finish. Plus, it’s physiologically impossible for the brain to multitask.
When we constantly multitask to get things done, we’re not multitasking, we’re rapidly shifting our attention. And this rapid shifting kills the mind, it waters its effectiveness down significantly. When we follow Mike’s pattern above, the mind shifts through three phases:
Phase 1: Blood Rush Alert
When Mike decides to start writing his History essay, blood rushes to his anterior prefrontal cortex. Within this part of the brain, sits a neurological switchboard. The switchboard alerts the brain that it’s about to shift concentration.
Phase 2: Find and Execute
The alert carries an electrical charge that’s composed of two parts: first, a search query (which is needed to find the correct neurons for executing the task of writing), and second, a command (which tells the appropriate neuron what to do). This process propels Mike into a mental state of writing for his History essay. Your mind literally puts a writing cap on.
Phase 3: Disengagement
While in this state, Mike then hears an email notification. His mind rapidly disengages his current writing state, and then sends blood-flow back to Phase 1, which then leads him to phase 2, and then when he gets distracted again, he’ll find himself at phase 3.
The process repeats itself sequentially. It doesn’t work simultaneously (i.e. multitasking). The mind shifts rapidly through this phase at a rate of one-tenth of a second. This tells us two important things: it reinforces the case that we must only focus on one thing at a time, and second, it’s critical to master selective attention, which we’ll explore below.
Concentration drives intelligence
Research surfaced recently that revealed the true drivers of intelligence. They asked, “Is intelligence simply the ability to assimilate information and recall upon it whenever needed?” Is intelligence really a measure of memory? If not, than what makes a person intelligent? Amazingly, they found that intelligence is not founded on one’s memory. Instead, intelligence emanates from one’s ability to control their selective attention. It’s their ability to control the three phases above, and where they route their blood-flow to within the prefrontal cortex.
As you improve in the ability to strategically allocate your attention, your brain also improves. In fact, it rewires itself. As you exercise concentration and selective attention, your mind rewires itself to support your new habits. You get better and better at concentrating when you concentrate. That’s the good news. The bad news is that as you age, your mind’s flexibility slows down slightly. Meaning, you can’t rapidly jump out of habits and processes as well as you could in your earlier days. Yet, by practicing the small steps and exercises today within your mind, you can establish solid mental faculties for your older years. By practicing brain exercises through mental games you can significantly sharpen your mind. For brain exercises, I highly recommend Lumosity’s brain training games. They’re fun, effective and you can sign up for free. Click here and sign up for a free account. (free brain game training)
Now that you know a bit about the science and background of your mind, we’ll explore 8 things that will help you build short-term focus (concentration).
8 Things Everybody Ought to Know About Concentrating
1. You can’t start concentrating until you’ve stopped getting distracted
The phrase above is self-explanatory. Yet, it’s amazing how most people look for some crazy, obtuse solution for the reason why they can’t concentrate. They reason, “I just have ADD. I can’t concentrate.” In reality, their situation likens itself to Mike’s situation above.
In the late 80′s, two researchers asked themselves a chicken-egg question. (“What came first the chicken or the egg?”). Their version centers on distraction and boredom. They asked themselves, “What came first, distraction or boredom.” What they found is rather subtle, yet it’s profoundly significant. They found that distraction leads to boredom (not the other way around). This displays that we must cut out distraction in order to get focused; or else, we’ll get bored.
2. Just do one important thing per day
Scientists also found that we can only focus on one thing at once. Nobody does that. We’ve always got something going on in the background of whatever we’re doing. We’ve always got two-dozen tasks on our to-do list. On top of this, we’ve got a handful of projects that we try and finish simultaneously.
When you’ve got a mountain of paperwork on your desk, the best thing to do is clear it all off. Pick it all up and place it in a drawer. Do anything required to get it out of your sight. After this, kick your feet up and daydream. Yes, I’m serious. Daydream and ask yourself the following question: “What’s the most important thing I can do right now?” Once you’ve identified the item that will actually make a difference, do it.
Try and make it a goal to do just one critical thing per day. This habit proves much more effective than living the routine everyone else lives: doing many insignificant things a day. They live on fooling themselves into thinking they’ve added value.
The quote below by John Wooden summarizes this quite nicely. Recall upon this daily if you’re having a difficult time breaking away from the ineffective lifestyle.
“Don’t mistake activity for achievement.” – John Wooden
3. Chunk into three’s
Most of the time your one important thing that you can do per day takes more than just one action. Oftentimes it takes a series of smaller steps to accomplish. For this reason, it’s very helpful to chunk activities into sets of three. If you set out to accomplish one important item without a plan, you’ll be just as ineffective as the crack-berry work-a-holic running around the office making copies.
Outline your three-step to-do list using an offline to-do planner (which we outline in another chapter); or if you’re working online, use a three-item FocusList to keep you focused on the task at hand. Click here for a simple, effective, downloadable To-Do List.
4. Questions that kill procrastination
The brain processes meaning before detail. This is where procrastination stems from. Your boss, professor or co-worker tells you that the task on your desk is important, but your brain doesn’t yet agree. If you push forth anyways, and embark on the task before understanding its meaning, you’ll end up frustrating yourself and wasting time because you may have to do it all over.
For this reason, whenever you find yourself procrastinating, ask yourself the following questions:
Question one: Does this really need to be done?
- If you’re in the business world, term it as, “Will this increase revenue, and/or reduce cost?”
- If you’re in school, ask “Will this impact my grade?” Note: In school, it’s not necessarily about preparing you for the real-world, it’s about assimilating information, regurgitating it on a test, and then hopefully remembering some of it in the future, which gives you more context for the real world. This is why, the question isn’t, “Will this prepare me for the real world?”
Whatever your environment, if you can’t come up with a compelling reason for doing something, ask why the task needs to be done. If it’s not your choice, and it’s your boss’ choice, have him or her step into your office and explain the situation. Tell them, “So, I’ve been sitting here trying to figure out how to best approach this project, yet I everytime I advance further, I keep coming back to why this is meaningful in the first place. Can you help me understand the big picture and value this actually adds to our business?”
The result will be one of four things:
- The person will realize that this is just busy work. Thus, you won’t have to do it,
- The person will try and convince you that it’s important. In this case, assign yourself an insanely fast deadline to finish the project, and finish it. This type of boss values people that look like they’ve done something; he or she doesn’t actually care about its effectiveness, thus they won’t care about results.
- The person will come up with a compelling reason for why it’s important, and thus you’ll be able to finish the project with grace and effectiveness because you understand its meaning and purpose.
- The person will get angry at you for questioning the process. This indicates that you’re at a bureaucratic organization that devalues innovation and purpose. If you’re OK with this, enjoy a work-life of hell. If you’re not OK with this, sprint to the exit as quickly as possible.
Question two: Can I delegate this?
If you find yourself with a task that has meaning (with or without a lie from a boss), and you don’t want to do it, delegate it. Doing something you hate is a lose-lose. It’s bad for you, as well as your organization because you’ll likely turn in sub-par work.
5. Be Smart With Your Time
The Pareto principle is founded on a theory that 80% of effectiveness is driven by 20% of our activity (or causes). I argue that it’s more like 99%:1%. It’s amazing how many insignificant tasks we’re constantly filling our lives with. Don’t make it your goal to involve yourself with 20% of meaningful items during the day. It gets too confusing, and your untrained mind will still end up taking-on too much. As state above, just do one important task per day. Say no to everything else–even your boss. Be humble, but be logical.
There’s three types of people in corporations:
Type 1: Busy People
This is the person who constantly stresses themselves out by running around with paper, working on vacations and constantly checking email. They look like work-a-holics, but they get very little work done. They end up burning themselves out. They can even end up lashing out at others.
What ends up happening is that others perceive them as being able to get the most done, thus people assign more work to them. The work results in being half-assed because the busy person doesn’t have the appropriate time needed for the task. People end up giving the most work to those who are least effective. This is why busy people and work-a-holics are bad for organizations. They eventually end up hurting companies.
Type 2: Lazy People
Lazy people are those that put the blame on their external environment for a lot of things. In the back of their minds sits hope that they’ll one day succeed and hit that million-dollar home-run. Yet in the meantime, they fill their lives with activities that release dopamine.
Activities such as T.V., potato chips, video games, researching whether or not Tupac faked his death and conspiring over whether our government is run by free masons. I was this person once. These were my habits. I occupied my time with message-boards, reading hours of sports articles, and more. I wanted to achieve my dreams, but my mind craved dopamine derived from reading sports blogs. Getting out of this state and into the state below is what this book is about.
Type 3: A Sage
A Sage is one that doesn’t involve themselves in dopamine-driven activities; instead, he or she is very selective about what they do. They have a habit of asking themselves questions that most people are too busy to ask. They pre-occupy themselves with the unspoken, yet meaningful assumptions that others fail to address. Sages ask questions about the meaning behind any activity that they embark on. They view turning down work as a logical decision, not an emotional one. They even say no to their bosses in a strategic way. In order to become a Sage, you must become indispensable to your organization, which is accomplished through practicing Wu Wei (which we will cover soon in the chapter on Flow). Of course, when it comes to business, nobody is indispensable, even the CEO and Founder can be replaced (e.g. Yahoo’s CEO/Founder, Jerry Yang). By becoming indispensable, I mean you must be economically indispensable. Meaning, to the economy, you must be indispensable. In other words, you, yourself, can generate monetary value wherever you go–even if you work for yourself. The most empowering feeling is knowing you can land a job at any time, or just make money for yourself whenever you want to.
A true sign of being indispensable is not a pat on the ass from a boss. It’s not a bonus or a raise. A true sign of being indispensable comes from making money on your own and getting job offers when you’re not looking for a job.
In summary, in order to be a Sage, you must earn it. You must earn it by being economically indispensable, and we’ll learn shortly that this falls into place naturally.
6. Mind Maps
Whenever you’re feeling overwhelmed, it’s critical to allow the mind to disentangle itself by mapping out your thoughts on paper.
There’s two types of maps: (i) PS Map, and (ii) Fear Map
I. PS Map:
A PS Map is short for a problem-solution mind map. This becomes a helpful tool when you’re trying to get something done, yet your mind keeps wandering towards a problem you think you have. A PS Map is also critical for when you feel restless–when your mind won’t stop racing. You tend to pace around the house contemplating a problem. Whenever you’re in this state, pull out a piece of paper and at the top write: “Problem.” Then map out every single detail and nature of the problem. Halfway down, on the same piece of paper, write out “Solution” And then map out possible solutions to this problem. This simple exercise slows down the mind, puts things into perspective and makes the solution shockingly clear.
II. A Fear Map
Sometimes, thoughts and ideas creep into our mind that are intrinsically negative in nature. These thoughts generate fear. In this situation, it’s best to outline the consequences of your fear. Through outlining the results of your fear, you can oftentimes find how insignificant the fear really is. And even in the case of where the fear still seems significant, at least you know what the worst thing could happen is. Oftentimes you’ll find that the worst thing that could happen, really isn’t that bad.
A fear map forces you to apply simple logic to the source of your fear. It’s founded on ‘If X, then Y.
On paper map out the following formula “if x, then y.” Where “x” is the fear, and “y” is your estimate of the fear’s result.
Through mapping out your thoughts, you can calm the racing mind, which will free your mind to focus on the task at hand.
7. Blame something
Other times, sitting down to concentrate is as simple as blaming a simple object for your inability to concentrate. As we discussed above, lazy people are those that blame almost everything on their environment. You don’t want to do this, as it’s not a long-term, sustainable solution. However, in instances where you can’t get excited to actually pump blood to your prefrontal cortex (phase 1 of concentrating), a simple object can help you out. Such an object would be coffee, a drink, a Bonsai tree or a walk. You can reward your mind for concentrating by saying, “OK, mind, here’s the deal–it’s hard to concentrate on this right now, but I’ll pick up a bonsai tree, which will create a more compelling environment to concentrate.” You’ll find that this object-based motivator actually works.
8. Interest
Researchers found that concentration is not a gift. It’s not about intelligence. It’s not about being a prodigy with a gifted memory. It’s not about possessing the ability to recall an insane amount of facts (That’s what Google’s for). Researchers found that concentration is driven by interest, and interest is driven by attitude. If your attitude towards a specific project swells with interest, intrigue and passion, concentration is astonishingly easy.
Conclusion
A core component of concentrating is building up a repertoire of purpose-driven habits that enables you to seamlessly step into “flow.” It’s my thesis that “flow” is the combination of mastering short-term focus and long-term focus. This book is about building this repertoire through goals, habits, exercises, philosophies and practices which will result in you becoming a more focused person.
What’s Next
As we covered, the key to proper concentration is creating your own purpose-driven habits that enable you to step into “flow.”
It’s my thesis that “flow” is the mastery of both short-term focus and long-term focus. In this chapter, we’ve outlined the science behind short-term focus, and the 8 actions you can do to improve concentration.
Remember – intelligence comes from focused concentration. Beware of the distractions around you. We’re all human and prone to laziness or becoming an inefficient work-a-holic, but we can choose to be strategically lazy, and thus, becoming effective.
More About ‘How to Get Focused’
This book is about building the habits of focus through goal-setting, exercises, philosophies and practices that result in an increased ability to focus for success.
In the next chapter, we’ll explore the concept of flow.
As always, please let me know how you liked this chapter and what can be improved in the comments section below.
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sexta-feira, 21 de outubro de 2011
Estuque
quinta-feira, 20 de outubro de 2011
terça-feira, 11 de outubro de 2011
Serial Killers
What's the difference between sociopaths, psychopaths, serial killers, etc.?
segunda-feira, 10 de outubro de 2011
TV GUIA vs SARAMAGO
Inicialmente vocacionada exclusivamente para os temas de televisão, a “TV Guia” é actualmente uma revista mais generalista, com secções novas, conteúdos mais actuais, actualidade e informação, indo ao encontro de um leque de leitores mais alargado. A "TV Guia" vende, em média, cerca de 70 mil exemplares por semana.
http://publico.pt/Cultura/venda-de-livros-de-saramago-aumenta-quase-dez-vezes_1443076
http://www.cofina.pt/cfn_pt/overview/magazines/Aokigahara
Aokigahara é uma floresta que se situa na base do monte Fuji no Japão, onde existem cavernas que não degelam, mesmo durante o Verão.
Contam-se muitas lendas acerca da floresta de Aokigahara, segundo uma, as rochas da montanha contêm grandes depósitos de ferro que provocam erros nas bússolas e até o GPS deixa de funcionar, fazendo com que seja extremamente fácil as pessoas perderem-se.
Contudo, estas lendas são falsas, pois o campo magnético gerado pelo ferro é demasiado fraco para ter um efeito significativo, além disso, as forças militares do Japão e dos Estados Unidos fazem exercícios de treino regularmente na floresta, durante os quais o GPS, as bússolas e os outros aparelhos electrónicos de orientação funcionam perfeitamente.
As lendas de monstros, fantasmas e goblins assombrando a floresta são também diversas. Em adição, o Aokigahara Jukai (O Mar das Árvores) é a zona do Japão onde ocorrem mais suicídios, diz-se que os espíritos dos suicidas para sempre vagueiam na área, a quantidade de corpos descobertos, em média trinta por ano, levaram as autoridades a colocar sinais proibindo o suicídio na floresta. O brasileiro Luiz Henrique Pelissaro esteve dias 2 e 3 de janeiro de 2010 percorrendo toda a extensao da floresta, e pôde comprovar que o lugar é realmente assustador. Diversos vídeos foram gravados, e poderão ser vistos no documentário que será lançado em fevereiro próximo, com muitas novidades, verdades e mitos sobre o tenebroso bosque.
sexta-feira, 7 de outubro de 2011
quinta-feira, 6 de outubro de 2011
Do My Words Improve The Silence?
Speaking both creates and destroys.

I create new form out of my thoughts and in doing so I destroy the perfect silence. Every time I open my mouth to give voice to my words I disturb the quiet by creating a vibration, a ripple in the still pool of silence.
I had better make sure I’m creating something of meaning!
A man of few words
I’m usually a man of few words which often triggers infuriation in others. Many times I’ve heard the person I’m with utter the words ‘Say something to me!’
Most of the time my lack of words means I have nothing to say that improves on silence.
No words of wisdom come to me. No insightful thought to share. No experience that might throw light on the situation. I choose to remain in silence rather than break it.
And that can be quite hard for others because we’ve been so conditioned that we tend to forget that speaking is optional. Noise and the human voice is everywhere - radio, TV, gossip in the bar or cafe.
Chatter, chatter, chatter.
Most of the noise we create is a complete waste of energy that adds nothing except background static. The more static, the harder I find it to differentiate those voices worth listening to.
It’s not so everywhere.
A British friend of mine, a manager in a large company in Helsinki, told me an anecdote. One Friday evening he took his team of 3 or 4 people for a drink after work. They sat the whole evening in complete silence. My friend getting more exasperated, bored and worried they weren’t having any fun while his Finnish colleagues silently drank their beer. At the end of the evening they said goodbye and thanked him for a really great evening.
He sensed they meant it.
Sometimes the human voice can be beautiful and the words it produces life changing and I don’t necessarily mean in big ways. A simple warning call, a sentence of wise advice, a question that causes me to step back and think, an expression of gratitude from the heart, a sign of life beyond the passing thought of the moment.
I would like to reduce the amount of noise I produce and create more value when I express myself. I’d like you to do the same!
Some of these ideas might help:
1 Before opening your mouth
* Ask yourself ‘Will what I’m about to say improve on silence’?
* Be clear what you want as a result of opening your mouth. I’ve heard it said that we only ever say 2 things – ‘Please‘ and ‘Thank you‘. At its basic level the first is ‘Please listen to me‘ and the second ‘I want to celebrate‘.
* If you want to be heard, make sure it’s something of value about yourself, your thoughts, your feelings, your deeper self. Ideally it’s valuable for me to hear, too!
* If you want to celebrate, make that very clear. I enjoy an opportunity for a good celebration!
2 When you speak
* Don’t overload me with stuff.
* Give me a chance to listen by pausing when you reach a full stop or question mark.
* Allow silence to hold your words and let me savour them.
* Wait for my reaction before continuing.
3 Get interested in me
* If I’m not asking any questions, I’m probably not curious and your ”please listen to me’ may fall on barren ground. Try asking me something instead of telling me!
* If I’m talking and you’re no longer listening (for whatever reason), interrupt me and tell me you’ve stopped listening. Don’t waste our life force on ‘noise’. You may have been told it’s impolite to interrupt, but in my world it’s worse to fake listening to me.
* Refuse to talk about someone who’s not present. They are not there to hear our feedback, learn from our observations or celebrate what they’ve brought to our lives. In my value system this is one of the highest forms of disrespect.
4 When you’re not engaged in conversation
* Notice what noise you use as background – TV? Radio? Music? Which adds value to your life and which numbs you to what’s really important.
* Develop an appreciation of silence. The more you appreciate it, the less likely you are to disturb it with things that don’t matter.
quarta-feira, 5 de outubro de 2011
segunda-feira, 3 de outubro de 2011
domingo, 2 de outubro de 2011
TOP 11 ROYAL FAMILY CONSPIRACIES
sábado, 1 de outubro de 2011
"Ele tinha momentos ocasionais de silêncio..."
- "Ele tinha momentos ocasionais de silêncio que tornavam sua conversa um prazer".
- - he has occasional flashes of silence that make his conversation perfectly delightful
- - A memoir of the Reverend Sydney Smith - Volume 1, Página 320, Sydney Smith, Lady Saba Holland Holland - Harper & Brothers, 1856
- - he has occasional flashes of silence that make his conversation perfectly delightful
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segunda-feira, 26 de setembro de 2011
Obrigado.
domingo, 25 de setembro de 2011
10 Life-Enhancing Things You Can Do in Ten Minutes or Less
It usually takes us much longer to change our moods than we’d like it to take. Here are ten things you can do in ten minutes or less that will have a positive emotional effect on you and those you love.
1. Watch "The Last Lecture" by Randy Pausch. See it online at Oprah.com. This is a deeply moving segment that may be the best ten minutes you've ever invested in front of a computer.
2. Spend a little while watching the sunset with your mate. Nothing extra is necessary. Just sit and take in the natural beauty of the sky and appreciate being able to share it with the one you love.
3. Sit quietly by yourself. It doesn't really matter where or when. Just let your feelings bubble up and then experience the thoughts flowing out of your mind. Clearing your head and heart will give you extra energy to get through the rest of the day.
4. Write a thank you note to your mate. When was the last time you thanked your partner for just being who he or she is and being with you? Doing this in writing will give your partner something to cherish for the rest of his or her life.
5. Take out your oldest family photo album and look through it. The experience will fill you with fond memories and perhaps make you a bit wistful for days gone by.
6. Play with a child. Most kids have short attention spans; ten minutes of quality time from a loving adult can make their day. It will also help you stay in touch with the child inside of you.
7. Visualize or imagine a positive outcome for any issue. Medical doctors recommend visualization to patients with chronic and potentially fatal illnesses. If it can help them, it can do the same for you.
8. Go to bed with the one you love ten minutes earlier than usual. Then spend that time just holding each other. Let the feeling of warmth from your mate move through you.
9. Hang out by some water. Studies show that hospital patients who can see a natural body of water from their beds get better at a 30 percent faster rate. If you're not near the coast or a lake, try taking a bath. Doing so is also healing.
10. Get your body moving. Shake, twist, and jump around. Let yourself feel the joy of moving to your favorite music, or just the sounds in your head. Run, walk, and bike to your hearts content. You will live longer and love it more.
Sadly, many people measure happiness by how long the experience lasts. The truth is that a few minutes of joy here and there can make a big difference in what you get out of life.

